What would you do if you found your dad on Grindr? One teen who hadn’t come out yet found the app when going through his homophobic dad’s phone.

So, as most teens do these days he took to the internet to ask what to do.

He asked his fellow Reddit users:

Found out that my “Homophobe” dad has Grindr on his iPhone when he asked me to go fetch it from the car. I am still closeted (denial/curious) so i know what Grindr is, even though i don’t have it myself. This makes it so much more confusing for me.”

One fellow Redditor offered this wise advise:

Your father might be dealing with his own inability to deal with his sexuality and desires. He is a product of his own environment. We are lucky in that we have all these outlets and you know he might not have the same outlet as you. As painful as this sounds, he might be trapped in a marriage that he doesn’t want. What is between your mother and your father is their business, you have no say in it. Don’t butt in, it will get worst.. trust me on this.

What you need to do now is just chill. Think of the long run implication of this? Now you know he had sex with men. Use that as an in to be closer and talk about who you are with him.

He has given us this update since:

Hi all, appreciate all the kind words of help and encouragement. I don’t know how to explain it in details though, but TLDR: Dad stood in denial and went on the defensive, even tried to question my own sexuality. Mom still does not know and that pains me. I guess he would still be that closeted homophobe and I; that closeted homo who is too shit to do more. Maybe all of this is just in my head. Maybe i am just thinking too much.

Yours sincerely,


So, the question is what would you do if you found your dad on Grindr?